Friday, December 7, 2018

{ Friday Foto Friends #159 }

I love winter skies and the views are so much better at Mom's house!



HOPE everybody has a great weekend!


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Thursday, December 6, 2018

{ HOPE }

A sweet friend shared this on Facebook and Y'all know it spoke to my heart!





Hope  you have a terrific Thursday!

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

{ Wednesday's Word - Grief }

grief

keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or 
loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret

cause or occasion of keen distress or sorrow



The 5 Stages of Grief & What They Really Mean.


Being transparent and open and honest is hard, but so often God asks to do hard things but with His help. I really don't want to be writing and sharing this because I feel like it makes me vulnerable for criticism and all sorts of other emotions, but I'm doing it anyway, hoping that someone else can relate realizing that you're not alone. 

I've been going through the stages of grief for quite some time and didn't even realize it until last Friday morning.  As God would have it, I "just happened" to watch an Instastory posted by a lady I follow. I had no idea that she would talk about grief before it was over, but she did, and she also prayed for those watching. As she spoke about the 5 stages of grief, I saw myself for a very long time going through each one of those powerful emotions and letting them cripple me and cause me to practically come to a stand-still in my life. I've allowed this to affect me physically and emotionally. I'm going to also say that it has affected my spiritual life, but I don't think that's been such a bad thing because it has caused me to cling even tighter to God's hand and His word has become sweeter to me. Each morning as I've poured my heart out to Him, He's whispered His precious comfort over my soul.  One of my very favorite things is to open up my Bible in the mornings and the feeling that comes over me often before I even read anything at all. It truly is a sweet aroma.

I'd like to share a few things that I've come to realize as I've pondered on these 5 stages of grief during the past week.

Denial 

My own denial is very selfish in thinking "how could this happen to me?" when in fact it should have been "why not me?". God uses the hard things to prune us and make us into better servants for Him to share our struggles with others.  That's something that isn't always easy for me because I have this tendency to want everybody to think my life is just perfect when in reality I'm a sinner and live in a sinful world. 

Anger

Y'all, I could write a book on this emotion. This doesn't even sound right to admit (remember the problem with perfection) but one thing I was angry about was I so wanted Pappy and me to share in some type of ministry after he retired and that hasn't happened. I won't go into detail all the other things that have caused so much anger and regret and deep sorrow, but all of those things have been there and it took practically nothing for them to surface.

Bargaining

This one's difficult to describe and maybe it didn't last long or wasn't even a part of this process at all. If you can call it bargaining, then it had to be my begging God to change the situation to what I wanted (selfish much?).


Depression

If you know me well, you know this is something I struggle with. This isn't something new and as I look back over my life, all the way to childhood, I know I've suffered bouts of depression for well over 50 years. During this battle it overcame me. You might wonder how in the world could she be a Christian if she admits to allowing herself to become depressed. Please know that I've asked myself that very same question over and over through the years. My consolation is remembering all those in the Bible who suffered from that same feeling of desperation.....
Moses, David (a man after God's own heart), Job (and Job's wife), Elijah, Jeremiah (the weeping prophet)

I believe the Bible lets us know about the depression and desperation these great saints went through as an example to us - after all, isn't that what the Bible is for?

Acceptance

From what I've read we can go through all of the first 4 emotions in any given order, but the final one is acceptance. Does this mean that we like how things are going, how our life turned out, that we don't get "our way"? Absolutely not. We realize there are situations and folks in our life that are completely out of our control. We accept that God has a greater plan and we have no idea the "why" of the way things are going. My own greatest acceptance is that He loves me and cares about how I suffer, but that He is using it for His glory!

If you're reading this and you're in the midst of grief, or just coming out of it, or like me and don't even realize you're grieving, let me pray for you. I've shared some of my struggles with very close friends whom I knew would pray for me and keep my confidence. Find such a friend for yourself. I'll be glad to pray for you in confidence if you would like to e-mail me at wiseoldowldesigns@comcast.net.

Thank you, sweet Friends, for listening and praying for me. 
I so appreciate all your kind comments and prayers and love. 

HOPE each of you has a Wonderful Wednesday full of blessings!

Tuesday, December 4, 2018

{ Tuesday Tidbits }


A few things going on in my neck of the woods.....

Yesterday was an awesome day!
Wanna know why?
I worked outside!
I'd rather be outside working than indoors any old day. The weather was warm - a little too windy - but there were lots of leaves that needed to be mulched and blown and I took advantage of the warmer day and we got a lot accomplished!

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The porch cover is coming along.
I haven't taken any fotos, but I will soon.

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I came across this little owlie in a box of decorations that I hadn't opened in several years. I've had this owl since I was very young before we were even married. One of his little ear tufts is missing, and I'm pretty sure Jess tore/bit it off when she was little. He's faded and kinda nappy, but he's loved and found a place to perch on our tree.



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We got to see all 4 of our grand kiddos perform in The Christmas Carol this past Saturday night. Y'all, I can't even describe the joy and pride for these precious little souls. 
Be still my  

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Not a very clear foto, but look who's started sleeping in one of the chairs under the carport.....


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I'm pretty much finished decorating for Christmas, except for the lights we bought on sale last year that I wanted to put around our porch - we'll see if that happens since I'm old and tired.....

Image result for old woman emoji


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Today is the 24th anniversary of going to heaven of one of the most important and loved people in my life.....
my Daddy.

April 13, 1928 - December 4, 1994


(Daddy and me - 1955)



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And, that's that about that as my Mammie used to say!

HOPE everybody has a Terrific Tuesday!


Thursday, November 29, 2018

{ Friday Foto Friends #158 }

It's been a cold dreary week here in East Tennessee and we even saw a bit of snow one day.....


The sun was setting as I left Mom's one evening.....


One of my favorite decorations - the nativity set I got from Home Interior our first CHRISTmas together, 42 years ago - Jess painted the cross for me. I usually put the nativity in a "stable" that my Dad and Pappy made but I chose to go simple this year.




And, this just says it all.....



Happy weekend, sweet Friends!





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Friday, November 23, 2018

{ Friday Foto Friends #157 }

Edited:
I'm so sorry the video won't play. I've posted it on the Friends of Breathing in Grace Facebook page if you want to go watch it there. 
💜


I want to share something different this week.  It's not a foto, but a video of my little Momma saying her ABC's backward.  Y'all, I had no idea she could do this until her sister passed away and a friend of my Aunt told me she remembered that Aunt Delores could say her ABC's backward. When I told Mom, she said she could, too. I was amazed and had to get her on video.

Isn't she just the cutest?

I can't quit watching this because it makes my heart so very happy!




We had a wonderful THANKSgiving and HOPE everybody else did, too.

Happy Friday!




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Thursday, November 22, 2018

{ THANKSgiving Blessings }

"Thanksgiving to the Lord belongs
For all His love and care;
With grateful hearts and thankful songs,
Thanksgiving all may share.
Our Father from His bounteous hand
Lets many blessings fall;
Our life, our friends, and freedom's land,
We owe to Him our all.

Sing praise to the Lord for all His bounties shown;
Let every heart a tribute bring,
And make His goodness known."

~~~ Franklin E. Belden - 1878 ~~~





 Prayers for our military spending THANKSgiving away from their loved ones and all those who are hurting physically, emotionally and spiritually. 

May each of us take time today to count our many, many blessings!