Thursday, February 11, 2010

Valentine's Day for Spouses

(a Valentine's Day gift to Pappy many, many years ago that still hangs in our bedroom)

Pappy and I will have been married 33 years in April.  I would like to say that I'm an authority on what makes a good marriage....but that would be a lie. 
I do know one thing....a good solid marriage....actually consists of 3, not just 2....the husband....the wife....and the Holy Spirit Who leads, guides and directs your marriage.  A lot of women get really upset about the whole "submissive" part of being a wife.  I have a couple of things that I want to say on that....first of all....being submissive doesn't mean being a doormat.  Our Savior doesn't expect that of any of us....and secondly....if you're submissive to the Holy Spirit...then, you'll find it much easier to be submissive to your husband, too.  You've gotta remember...he's listening to the Holy Sprit, too!!!

If any of you have ever been to Hyman's Seafood in Charleston, SC...then you're probably aware of the inspirational cards that are available in their....RESTROOMS!!! 
Yes...their RESTROOMS!!!

We haven't been there in years....but I kept this little card and just came across it since we've been rearranging and cleaning....very good advice....and quite appropriate for Valentine's Day!!!

50 Promises for Marriage
by Steve Stephens

1.  Start each day with a kiss
2.  Wear your wedding ring at all times
3.  Date once a week
4.  Accept differences
5.  Be polite
6.  Be gentle
7.  Give gifts
8.  Smile often
9.  Touch
10.  Talk about dreams
11.  Select a song that can be "our song"
12.  Give back rubs
(I hope Pappy reads this!!)
13.  Laugh together
14.  Send a card for no reason
15.  Do what the other person wants before he or she asks
16.  Listen
17. Encourage
18. Do it his or her way
19.  Know his or her needs
20.  Fix the other person's breakfast
21.  Compliment twice a day
22.  Call during the day
23.  Slow down
24.  Hold hands
25.  Cuddle
26.  Ask for each other's opinion
27.  Show respect
28.  Welcome the other person home
29.  Look your best
30.  Wink at each other
31.  Celebrate birthdays in a big way
32.  Apologize
33.  Forgive
34.  Set up a romantic getaway
35.  Ask, "What can I do to make you happier?"
36.  Be positive
37.  Be kind
38.  Be vulnerable
39.  Respond quickly to the other person's request
40.  Talk about your love
41.  Reminisce about your favorite times together
42.  Treat each other's friends and relatives with courtesy
43.  Send flowers every Valentine's Day and anniversary
(this one I don't really agree with...I would much rather get flowers "for no special reason"!!!)
44.  Admit when wrong
45.  Be sensitive to each other's sexual desires
46.  Pray for each other daily
(and pray together as often as possible)
47.  Watch sunsets together
48.  Say "I love you" frequently
49.  End the day with a hug
50.  Seek outside help when needed

Proverbs 30:18-19 (NLT)
There are three things that amaze me—
no, four things that I don’t understand:

how an eagle glides through the sky,
how a snake slithers on a rock,

how a ship navigates the ocean,
how a man loves a woman.

Happy Valentine's Day Blessings to each of you!!!

In His Most Precious Love....and with mine!!!


  1. Just read your comment you left on the 7th and yay we finished Leviticus but Numbers is another one that's difficult to understand at points. It's also a slow read and those huh questions pop up!

  2. Hi Deb,

    This is Donna from Homemaking Made Easy. Thank you so much for visiting! I really love your blog! What a refreshing place to visit. Wow...I feel hugged being here! :o)
    My blog is really intended to be a ministry to Christians and non-Christians alike. I try to meet the practical needs of women who may be new to homemaking or maybe just not comfortable. When I think it's appropriate, I post a song or poem to remind my readers what it's really all about...loving the Lord and loving our hubbies and family. I have a song blog that you might like. I don't have all my music up yet. It took me a while to figure out to do music on a blog. I hope you stop by from time to time. :o)

  3. Hi Deb, I forgot to mention that I'm adding you to my blogroll. You are the first one whose blog seems most geared to a woman's spiritual needs...and I want my readers to have that!



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