Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Wednesday's Words - Learning Lessons....

 Oh, how difficult it is sometimes to really LISTEN to the Lord when He is trying to get my attention so He can teach me a lesson.  Like I mentioned in a recent post, when He's got something for me to hear,
He just won't give up.  Actually, I like that about Him.  He made me so He knows how hard-headed this daughter of His can be!

Like with the blog comments.
It wasn't the comments, per se.....
but the need for approval.
I've struggled with this issue for as far back as I can remember.
(can you tell my "love language" is words of affirmation?)
If I were to go and lay on a psychiatrist's couch,
I already know what he/she would say this "need" stems from.....
so I'll just save myself the money and the stress of having to deal with an age old problem and let the Lord help me through it.....
and my awesome Christian friends.

One of these friends is  Ms. Cindy, who has taught women's Bible studies for many years.  We recently e-mailed back and forth and oh, how wise she is.  She gave me some insights into my "problem" 
(and I don't think she even realized she was doing it.....
that God was using her right then and there to help a sister out).....
that helped me come to terms with some things that I struggle with.
Okay, maybe not entirely "come to terms",
but at least acknowledge where all this craziness for approval comes from (like I didn't already know).

Yes, God is doing a work in my heart.....
and mind.....
once again.
I know you all think I'm sporadic and spacey and all over the place in my thoughts and decisions.....
and you are oh, so right.
But, I truly want to be transparent.....
and HOPEfully help someone else in their struggles.
Just like my friend helped me.

Would you pray for me that I can "wake up and smell the coffee",
and take these words from my friend to heart?
(HOPE you don't mind me sharing, Ms. Cindy)

"You can't compare to another my friend because God designed you to be you and nobody else......You are fearfully and wonderfully made and unique in every sense of the word. No one else can do what God has called you to do in one else can be you no matter if they tried. He chose you to be DEBBIE! 
Love you!"

Breathing in Grace,

(p.s....please visit  Ms. Cindy, 
and tell her that her friend, Deb, sent you by to visit.  


  1. Your friend was right....and our souls are restless until they find their rest in Him. For all the many joys ad benefits of blogging/facebook, etc. I think it tends to intensify/heighten our tendencies to compare or become dissatisfied with what we have and who we are. It tempts us to pretend to be something we're not. It has the potential to rob us of time to invest in service to others and focus on ourselves.

    1. Oh, Ms. Rebecca, I completely agree about FB and blogging causing a lot of comparison. Thank you so much for your insight.

  2. AWE...sweet post Deb and I love your realness and willingness to be honest with your thoughts, feelings and struggles. We all struggle in some way or another. The truth is that we all want affirmation of some kind! Let's just take the paper off the candy! We want to be liked, loved, and affirmed. We want to know we're missed by others, or that others are glad when we're in their presence. We want to MATTER. When all is said and done Deb with our lives on this earth the affirmation I long to hear will be these words...."Well done good and faithful servant". Love you to pieces! Hugs and blessings, Cindy

    1. Thank you for your HELP, my friend! I love that term "let's just take the paper off the candy"!!! You need to do a blog post and title it that!!! And, I so want to hear those words, too!

  3. It's so good to be able to 'talk' to you again. I think we might all struggle to some degree with 'acceptance.' I just want you know your post always touch my heart and leave me feeling blessed. Even in your struggles your willingness to trust in God is apparent and very uplifting to those who visit you. You are a wonderful Sister in Christ. Love You Bunches. ((hugs))

    1. Oh, Ms. Mary....I've missed you "talking" to me!!! You have ALWAYS been such a great encourager to me....and I LOVE you, too, my friend!

  4. Hi Debbie! Like Mary, it's nice to be able to 'converse' again. I know what you mean by the need for affirmation, I think any blogger does. Our words and feelings have value, and it's hard to face it when they don't resonate with others, or they just don't respond.
    I love your transparent heart, and I do understand it too. I always enjoy myself here, and love to read what you have to say. Just keep being Debbie. You do it very well!


Kind words are like honey—
sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
Proverbs 16:24